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Tarren asked:
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How do you know if you are a homo?
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Um. You're a guy, right? And you want to know whether or not you're homosexual. First, take a look
at my response, in answers 13, number 75, ok? What I'm trying to say there is that whatever it is to
be "homosexual" is not simple, and it's very culturally relative. Just go look at it.
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Now, I could ask, "So what, what difference does it make?" I mean, from a moralperspective, as far
as I'm concerned (and I'm not alone in thinking this), you're on neutral ground pretty much whatever
your sexual orientation is... although if you are a pedophile, for example, and acton those feelings,
you are, in my opinion, being immoral through your actions.
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But in yourcase, I'm going to assume that you are just wondering very simply whether you are more
attracted to men or women, and that this question is important to you, probably for the bad(in my
opinion) reason that you have been educated to think that being homosexual is bad or immoral, and
perhaps for the good(in my opinion) reasons that you are worried about society's reactions, how to
find a relationship, and so forth, if you are homosexual. I mean, like it or not, it's not easy being
homosexual in cultures that condemn it, and that's most cultures, I'm sorry to say.
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Well... to the question. It's pretty simple, really. If you're primarily attracted to men, you're
homosexual. If the erotic dreams you wake up to at night are about men; if when you walk down the
street and find that it's men's bodies that tend to turn you on; if men smell sexy. That's how
heterosexual men feel about women, and vice versa, and that's how homosexual men feel about
men, and women about women. That's what sexual attraction is,after all.
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But perhaps what you're reallyasking is, "now what... what do I doabout it?" You know, I could give
you all sorts of advice here. But this isn't an advice column; there are lots of those; there are friends,
there's counseling, there's all sorts of resources for talking about and dealing with your sexuality,
whatever that is. Find one near to you and use it.
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Steven Ravett Brown
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